Co-Dependency Quiz
  • Did you grow up with alcoholism or addiction, or did you experience neglect,
    abandonment, or physical, emotional, or sexual abuse?

  • When you were growing up, did it feel like it was your responsibility to make
    a parent happy, and if s/he was not happy, it was your fault?

  • Do you find it impossible to say no to requests, then feel resentful when you
    get overwhelmed?

  • Do you get involved in other people’s problems even if they don’t ask for
    your help?

  • Do you often find yourself in relationships in which you become the
    caretaker for the other person?

  • Do you have problems identifying feelings or find yourself trying to avoid
    feelings?

  • Do you tend to take responsibility for other people’s feelings or actions?

  • Are you a “people pleaser?”

  • Do you take criticism (even if it’s constructive criticism) personally and feel
    like you’re being attacked?

  • Have you gotten into a relationship and then later found out that your
    partner was an alcoholic, addict, or other compulsive personality?

  • Do you have problems with intimacy (emotional or physical)?

  • Do you feel like you are constantly looking for “the answer” from other
    people, activities, self-help books, etc.?

  • Are you extremely critical of yourself and/or others?

  • Do you try to anticipate the needs of others and wonder why they don’t do it
    for you?

  • Do you worry a lot, particularly about other people and their problems?

  • Do you have difficulty trusting yourself or others?

  • Do you find it difficult to accept compliments?

  • Do you feel guilty when you do something for yourself?

  • Do you try to control how other people act?

  • Do you ignore the problems in your life and pretend things are better than
    they are?

  • Do you take yourself too seriously?

  • Are you afraid of your own or others’ anger?

  • Are you extremely responsible or extremely irresponsible?

  • Do you allow yourself to be hurt in relationships and accept behavior from
    your partner that you said you would not accept?

  • Do you constantly give to others and feel uncomfortable when others give
    to you?

  • Do you often feel used?

  • Do you feel like you’re not good enough?

  • Do you have difficulty relaxing and having fun?

  • Do you wait to find out what other people think before you share your own
    opinion?

  • Are you afraid that others will leave you and tolerate abuse so that they will
    stay?

If your answer to at least 6 of these questions was yes, you may be codependent.
Co-Dependency Quiz